Episode 1003: You can’t protect yourself with defensiveness!

This week was a week for letting my guard down and discontinuing defending myself. Man it was hard and felt awkward and led me to the realization that I have been defensiveness around everyone my whole life. What a waste of energy. I wanted to think of myself as a mature and accomplished person and if anyone suggested that I was different that what I hoped for in my mind’s eye, I put up a wall and walked away, not considering what they were saying to me. 

Ken always told me, “I’m not attacking you.” And I didn’t think I believed that in the front of my mind but every time he made a suggestion, that is what I felt! He rarely made a suggestion I couldn’t use and after creating this podcast, I regret how much better I COULD have been if I had considered anything he told me. 

I talked to my sister, Betsy, about this podcast and she suggested I look at Gottman’s 4 Horsemen of the Apocalypse. I mistakenly thought it was a book but it is this graphic that is packed with good information.