In this powerful episode of 'What Lies Buried,' host Karly Latham and guests Kurstin and Tonya bravely share their personal stories of emotional and financial abuse within their former high-demand religious communities. As ex-Mormons and a former devout Catholic, they reveal the systemic pressures that facilitated mistreatment and perpetuated cycles of guilt and shame. The episode discusses their journeys of leaving their faiths, the complexities of managing household finances, and the trauma of financial mismanagement discovered post-separation. Challenges such as single parenting and finding self-worth are explored alongside the importance of building a supportive network. Trigger warnings for themes of emotional and religious abuse are provided.
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00:00 Introduction to What Lies Buried
01:17 Special Episode: Ex-Mormon Round Table
02:43 Personal Stories of Emotional Abuse
05:10 The Pressure to Conform in Religious Communities
08:08 Sexual Expectations and Marital Struggles
10:36 The Burden of Religious Guilt
13:54 Breaking Free and Finding Support
17:27 Reflecting on Past Relationships
48:17 Cognitive Dissonance in High-Demand Religions
48:44 Recognizing Emotional Abuse
49:56 Gendered Expectations and Patriarchy
51:35 The Burden of Household Responsibilities
59:41 Struggles of Leaving a Toxic Marriage
01:12:46 Financial Abuse and Control
01:33:46 The Fear of Being Alone
01:35:28 Final Thoughts and Advice