338 Build A Radical Platform Through Visibility With Debbi Dachinger

Debbi Dachinger is an expert in visibility. She is the author of best-selling books including Dare To Dream, Wisdom To Success and PR Magnet. Debbi does red carpet interviews and was previously an award-winning actress and singer. She is a media personality, has been interviewed on over 800 radio and TV shows, and is a dynamite keynote speaker onstage. Debbi helps leaders and global messengers write bestselling books, learn what their message is, and schedules clients on media interviews.

Contact Info

• Website: www.DebbiDachinger.com
• Books: Dare To Dream: A Secret Guide To Making Your Dreams A Reality
• WISDOM To SUCCESS: The Surefire Secrets To Accomplish All Your Dreams
• Podcast: Dare To Dream

Most Influential Person

• My dog.

Effect on Emotions

• Mindfulness is the great leveler of my emotions.
• Mindfulness is the greatest tool I know. In a moment I can use it anytime and it has caused me to widen back so I can see all options. It has caused me to calm down. It has caused me to love myself and see opportunities and has created an immense healing inside of me that honestly it's an ROI; the more I use it, the more returns I get.

Thoughts on Breathing

• Breathing is tremendous, right? If you do nothing else, you can change your breath.
• If you do nothing else, if you're in a room and you don't want to do anything, you don't want to do EFT tapping or suddenly start meditating, you can literally just [focus on] your breath and watch your breath come in and out and that will alter everything.

Suggested Resources

• Book: Anything by Jon Kabat-Zinn
• App: Calm With Cancer (An app for cancer patients but anyone can use it)
• App: Deepak and Oprah's Meditation App

Bullying Story

• When I was in sixth grade; so I was unpopular by the way. I was really awkward, really shy. And that went on for quite some time and for whatever reason when I got into high school, I completely changed. I then became very popular. So during this unpopular phase of my life, I was in sixth grade as I told you.
• I was acting and singing since I was a peanut and I was cast as the lead in our school play and the people who were the popular kids sat at the very front lunch table in the lunchroom, eating together every day.
• And one day when I was in this play, one of those people came up and said, would you like to join us? And I'm like, oh my God, they're talking to me. So cool. I take my little lunch bag. And it's like, hell yeah, this is awesome. Play goes on. I'm sitting everyday with them as part of their group. It's wonderful as far as I'm concerned. And then the play ends and I got there to the lunch table one day early, same popular lunch table. And Larry Asacaro looked over at me and said, what are you doing here? I said, this is where I eat, is with you guys, and he said, just so you know, nobody here likes you.
• And I looked at him and I was so shocked and I said, you're a liar. That's not possible. You're a liar. He said I'm not a liar and to prove it to you, I want you to come out to the playground after school is over. So at 3:00, because I had no mindfulness to protect me at all, no choice. I just knew he said it.
• I went out to the playground and what happened Bruce, is, I stood on the playground and all of those kids, guys and girls ten to 12 of them stood around me and they went around and each one of them told me why they didn't like me and why they didn't want me to be hanging around with them.
• And Oh my God, can you imagine the impact of a sixth grader being told all of what's wrong with you and all why they're begging you to go away. And stop spending time with them? Devastating.
• I didn't have anyone to go talk to at home about it. So I just ingested that trauma and of course never ate with them again.
• Had I had mindfulness; like I said, observer rather than reactor. I mean, first of all, I really believe if I had been mindful and the energy had changed or even when it started, I might've noticed. They are just looking at me like I'm the star of the show. I'm the newest thing to come along and the 'it' girl for the next 15 minutes. So I might have even been aware of that.
• And had I not, certainly when this boy turned to me, I would have been mindful enough to say no. I probably wouldn't have trusted going out to a playground or seeing what's happened.
• And then if I'd gone out to the playground, I would have been mindful enough to take care of myself and say, you know, this is pretty interesting, but I don't need to hear this anymore.