"Religious homophobia" isn't necessarily a thing. It's a belief.

Thank you so true you need to get validation from ourselves. And true the apology gay spouse understanding what they have done to you. We are/were both in the closet we were your closest.

The podcaster expresses what the straight spouse goes through so well that I just want to send her a hug. The Dr never seems to get it. It’s all about his journey and dismissing the straight spouse- you should just understand us - get over it!

You never say it’s wrong for the gay spouse to lie when answering the question “are you gay?”

Wow. Me too. I call each change away from what I thought we had as having the rug pulling the rug from under me. I had to end when I think he said “I want to experience living with a man as a gay man”. I guess your not BI then. Turns out that’s how he identifies. It was like pulling a bandaid little by little.

So on the mark of blaming myself. The person I’m concerned about is my daughter not getting validation from a straight dad. No one to say you look beautiful he’s one lucky guy because only young guys are beautiful to him. I had therapy to understand the impact to me.