17:00 it’s called ”abuse by proxy”. It’s absolutly horrendous! The family court, the police, the social services, the general public etc. All are programmed to see men as abusers and women as victims, no ifs or buts about it. Any nuance of the situation is reframed as victim-blaming the woman, while the actions of 3rd parties often are unconstinutional (in the case of the United States). A lot is based on the Duluth-model which was - as I understand it - academically and scientificaly unsound.

Thank you for everything you do. Listening to this in July 22. You get it, it means so much. Both my ”parents” are predatory and abusive. Of course that carried over to me accepting and tolerating abuse from others. - Scared of changing, but doing it anyway, for the better.

Thank you, Meredith Miller. You don‘t know it, but listening to your podcasts and your YouTube videos have been such a huge part of my recovery and learning over the last 3-4 years. from, someone who was raised by narcissists, trying to unhook myself

Thank you so much. You've described my sociopathic father, and malignant histrionic mother, both covert. Life draining. Living in survival mode right now.

This podcast is life changing! I’ve been isolated (without friends or family, except my kids & my abusive husband) for more than 8 years. Therefore, I’ve not had feedback or anyone to ask me what’s going with my appearance, my attitude, why I keep failing out of school, or why I have hidden from the world. I’m beaten down, and my self-esteem, which has never been good, has bottomed out in my current relationship. Your podcasts, courses, and YouTube videos have been very much like a mom coming in & demanding better for me until I’m strong enough to demand it for myself. I’ve wept gut wrenching sobs of relief over your messages that ring true deep in my gut. This has been the answer to why so many things don’t work in my life, and why I struggle so damned hard. I’ve begun the journey toward healing. I’m listening constantly to keep reminding myself that this stuff is really happening to me, and that I can choose something different. Thank you again, Meredith, for being the voice of reason, healing, and freedom in my life. 💕

I really like how you bring up how our culture sexualizes everything and how pornography has a negative effect on people and our culture.