Duty sex" or "lazy or selfish husband". These are phrases I hear a lot. And it's sad.
It's certainly not what a good and loving marriage should be. "Duty sex" often means a wife's body might be present during physical intimacy, but her mind and enthusiasm are far, far away. These are painful to a man's heart.
And "lazy or selfish husband" is usually the man who from her perspective takes her for granted--the romantic getaways, surprises and special gifts or experiences are long gone and his character is abysmal. These are painful to a woman's heart.
It comes down to our discipline to change these parts of ourselves.
Feelings are important and God-given. They get to be acknowledged, drained, and let go. They are important, and you can curiously listen to them (in yourself and others), but at the end of the day they don't get to "drive your bus"--your values do.
In this episode, both husbands and wives will be edified to become more aware of their own gaps of discipline which is causing their feelings to go in the wrong direction.
And I'll share the important and generally unusual disciplines that will get your feelings on track to pursue God's will for your life in the context of your marriage.
Blessings,
Belah
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361-Preventing and Healing from Infidelity. Interview with Gary Thomas
360-Can You Release Sexual Anxiety While Engaged? Transformation Stories
359-What is TRUE Masculinity? Convo with Kyle
358-Rapid Fire Transformations (Part 4)
357-Do You TRUST God with Your Intimacy?
356-How to Encourage Your Man (my husband joins me!)
355-Change & Your Kids Witness an AWESOME Marriage. Robert's Transformation Story
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353-What's Behind Porn Addiction? Interview with Therapist Sam Tielemans
352-"Once You Know, You Can't Unknow." Jameson's Transformation Story
351-Do Not Squander Today (Lay Down Your Pride)
350-Never Argue -- How You Should Disagree
349-Pray with Me...for Your Encouragement
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