311: How to Get Unstuck with Lia Garvin

It’s time to leave guilt spirals, perfectionism, and hedging behind. Today’s guest, Lia Garvin, is sharing her favorite tools for reframing frustrating situations through powerful questions and helpful feedback.

More About Lia: Lia Garvin is the bestselling author of UNSTUCK: Reframe Your Thinking to Free Yourself From the Patterns and People that Hold You Back, leaning into nearly ten years of experience working in some of the most influential companies in tech, including Microsoft, Apple, and Google to explore the power of reframing to overcome common challenges found in the modern workplace. In her popular TEDx talk, “Your decisions aren't wrong, your inner critic is“, Lia shares the secret to reframing the stress we feel around making decisions. As the Founder & CEO of The Workplace Reframe organizational strategy firm, speaker, and coach, Lia is on a mission to humanize the workplace, one conversation at a time.

🌟 3 Key Takeaways:

• If you find yourself stuck in the “nosebleed section” of a problem, especially if it’s a situation you don’t have direct control over, consider: What can this vantage point offer me? What can I learn from it? What might I consider for next time?
• A decision is a best guess: Separate the drivers from the outcomes of your next move.
• Unhook your self-worth from your work, and reframe your relationship to feedback: This project doesn’t have to be everything or for everyone; it doesn’t have anything to do with who you are as a person. If the feedback hits a nerve, collect more data.

✅ Try This Next: The next time you’re feeling stuck, try reframing your questions from “why?” to “what?” Write down all of the questions you are asking yourself, and re-construct them. So, “Why didn’t they pick me?” becomes: “What else might be going on in the situation that I’m not aware of?” and “Why does this always happen to me?” becomes “What else might be possible?”

📘Books: 

• Free Time: Lose The Busywork, Love Your Business 
• Pivot: The Only Move That Matters Is Your Next One
• Life After College
• UNSTUCK: Reframe Your Thinking to Free Yourself From the Patterns and People that Hold You Back

🔗Resources:

• Lia on the web, IG: @lia.garvin, Twitter, LinkedIn, YouTube
• Bonuses: Do's and Don'ts for Talking About Your Work with Confidence, 5Tips to Unlock the Best in Your Teams
• Article: Psychology Today’s Maximizers vs. Satisficers: Who Makes Better Decisions?
• TEDx: Your decisions aren't wrong, your inner critic is
• Masterclass: Chris Voss’ Win Workplace Negotiations, The Art of Negotiation

🎧Related Podcast Episodes:

• 289: Stealing Wi-Fi as Career Strategy with Jenny Wood
• 283: What Are You Here to Do? How to Find a Path That Fits with Adrian Klaphaak
• 182: Collective Problem-Solving + Negotiating Fearlessly with Mori Taheripour
• 26: Tame The Advice Monster With Michael Bungay Stanier

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