When I was first with my (now) husband he showed me my value.
Value I didn't know I had.
Worth I didn't know I was.
He taught me how precious my heart was.
He taught me how precious my body was.
God loved me through my husband.
God healed me through my husband.
I remember on our first date I told him that I had never felt safer in my whole life.
I felt completely respected and honored by this man.
I felt like he would protect me from anything and everything (even from himself).
Unassuming.
Tender.
Kind.
And when I read the scriptures, I see that is what Jesus is to women.
He is kind.
He is loving.
He doesn't speak to them harshly.
He is moved by compassion when they cry.
Seriously. Take a minute and think.
Is there ever a time that Jesus is harsh to women?
Even when he tenderly corrects Martha, it is in protecting Mary (a woman who had the gall to value herself enough to learn from the great Rabbi).
I invite you to explore with me how Jesus treated women.
Men if you have never learned from Jesus in this way, I think this will help you.
It will help you see your wife as the daughter of the king.
As a precious soul that you are tasked to heal and care for. And God can heal her through you... through your genuine safety.
Book referenced:
Unwanted: How Sexual Brokenness Reveals Our Way to Healing by Jay Stringer
Blessings,
Belah
PS - If you want our help, feel free to go to delightyourmarriage.com/cc for more info.
PPS - Recent husband grad:
BEFORE:
"Constantly getting rejected was demoralizing and took a mental toll on me for sure.
Not being listened to and the lack of respect was basically a punch in the gut pretty much daily, causing depression and definitely other issues within the house as well with the kids also."
AFTER:
"I wanted to think that I was doing all the right things and that it was her problems that were causing all of the issues between, but I was definitely wrong.
Through this program, I have realized that I definitely was living up to my "man of the house" role.
Mainly I was not providing her safety.
My actions, or lack of actions depending on the situation, were not getting my wife into a safe place where she would be in the mindset to share herself with me physically, mentally, or spiritually.
By doing this in turn it has proved to be beneficial with what I feel is much more respect from her, especially around the kids, as well as more frequent episodes of lovemaking."
162-Why Sex Matters To Him (A Gift For Your Wife)
161-Embodying Your Sexuality (Seduction), Part 2
156/157-Encourage Your Wife's Sexuality (For the Good Guys)
160-Embodying Your Sexuality, Part 1
159-Why He Didn't Care, But Now Adores Her. Interview with Laura Doyle, Part 2
158-Why He Didn't Care, But Now Adores Her. Interview with Laura Doyle, Part 1
157-Encourage Your Wife's Sexuality (How A Husband Can Help His Wife Be More Into Sex) Part 2
156-Encourage Your Wife's Sexuality (How A Husband Can Help His Wife Be More Into Sex) Part 1
155-His Low Drive (Solutions)
154-Great Sex Starts In The Mind Part 2
153-Great Sex Starts In The Mind Part 1
152-Unintentionally Hurting Him With Your Insecurity?
152-Where You Derive Your Value
151-God's Purposes for Sex
150-Your Feelings Are Valid
149-Sex Is Vulnerable
148-God Designed Sex
147-Is Sex Sinful? (Even [this kind] of Sex?)
146-Our Background Affects Our View Of Sex - Excerpt from Delight Your Husband
145-A Way Forward - Excerpt From Delight Your Husband
Create your
podcast in
minutes
It is Free