Are you keeping score in your relationship? Do you constantly point out all the things you do for the relationship, but also make it known the things your partner isn’t doing? Maybe you’re not even aware that you’re doing it, and the impact it’s having on your relationship. Oftentimes, keeping score creates a rift and divide between the couple because in order for a partner to “win”, the relationship must lose. Feelings of resentment, anger, and frustration lead to stress and tension that continues to build up until eventually the relationship breaks and is destroyed.
In this episode, we reflect on how we catch ourselves keeping score even after being together in a healthy and loving relationship for over a decade. We explore why most of us recognize that keeping score is not good for our relationships, yet we end up doing it anyways. We offer suggestions through our own journey on how to stop keeping score all the time, and work on learning to think more with a single team mentality. What we realized is that when we stop competing with each other and only pointing out our flaws, we are happier, stronger and more grateful for our partners.
0:00 Intro
1:16 Welcome banter
3:11 Start of topic
6:44 How we keep score
9:57 Why do we keep score in relationships
16:04 Keeping score hurts your relationship
19:09 We’re on the same team
23:24 How do you stop keeping score
29:51 Takeaways & lessons learned
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Why Are We Always So Hard On Ourselves - Episode 23
Help! My Friends & Family Hate My Spouse - Episode 22
How Do You Love Again After Heartbreak - Episode 21
How We Overcame Cheating & Heartbreak - Episode 20
What Does Your Partner Bring To Your Life - Episode 19
What Traits Would You Like To Regain From Your Childhood - Episode 18
What Would You Like Old Age To Look Like - Episode 17
What Does Home Mean To You - Episode 16
Things We Wish We Knew In Our 20s - Episode 15
How Technology Has Changed Dating - Episode 14
Growing Up In The 90s - Episode 13
The Importance Of Self Care - Episode 12
Does Money Buy You Happiness? - Episode 11
Should You Get A Prenup? - Episode 10
Traditional Or Modern Wedding? - Episode 09
Long Distance Relationships Or Nah? - Episode 08
How Friendships Change As You Get Older - Episode 07
Traveling & The Lessons We Learned - Episode 06
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