The ADHD Smarter Parenting‘s Podcast
Kids & Family:Parenting
We’ve heard so many parents say, “My child doesn’t do anything right.” Even the “worst” kids do things right. In fact, they may be doing a lot right. If we‘re focusing on the “bad,” that will be all we see, and we will miss what they do well.
The skill of Effective Praise helps parents acknowledge what kids are doing well, even if it’s small. When we focus on the positive, we will see things change as our kids will respond to the praise and acknowledgment of what they’re doing right.
Using Effective Praise is different than just offering general praise. General praise is sayings like, “Good job,” “Way to go,” “I’m proud of you.” While all of these sounds great, they won’t change your child’s behavior because they don’t tell a child anything.
On the other hand, Effective Praise helps a child understand what they are doing well and why they should continue it. Effective Praise is specific and tailored to your child and what they are doing.
Effective Praise sounds like, “Good job putting away your shoes. When you put away your shoes, you will know where they are, and you don’t have to spend time looking for them when you want to play with your friends.”
The hardest time to praise our children is when they are misbehaving, as it can be easy to think they don’t deserve praise. That is when you need to praise them! Remember, a child acts out because they are dealing with large emotions that they don’t know how to express. When you praise positive behaviors during a tantrum, it shows them they have options other than misbehaving and that even though they are acting out, you still love them and want to help them.
You can find the skill of Effective Praise on the Smarter Parenting website.
Ep. #211: We Are Making Changes to Serve You Better
Ep #210: Disciplining Your Child Calmly and Effectively
Ep #209: A Nuanced Approach to Effective Consequences
Ep #208: Role-playing--the secret sauce for changing a child’s brain
Ep # 207: Effective Praise: The Magic Wand Nobody is Looking For
Ep #206: When one child take the all the focus and attention
Ep# 205: Having Hard Conversations About Safety
Ep #204: ADHD and violent behavior
Ep #203: 5 Tips for dealing with meltdowns
Ep #202: Helping ADHD kids discover their superpowers with Isaac Eaves
Ep #201: New Challenge: Electronics and Children
Ep #200: Using Effective Communication
Ep #199: Breaking down Role-plays
Ep #198:Why consequences aren’t working
Ep 197: Answering More Parenting Questions
Ep #196: Answering your parenting questions
Ep #195: Teaching kids with ADHD how to set goals
Ep# 194: How to be more clear using Observe and Describe
Ep #193: Using the ABC’s of Behavior to understand your child’s behavior
Ep #192: Creating family rules around screen time
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