The term “gaslighting” is from a 1940s movie in which the Charles Boyer character tries to convince the Ingrid Bergman character that she’s losing her mind. And the term shows up frequently in the context of couples therapy. A listener question from a woman who is frustrated by her husband’s responses to her requests for change led us to this topic. Along the way we talk about what makes for an effective apology, and the worst and best ways to talk to someone you’ve inadvertently hurt.
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The December Dilemma
Faith Heals People. Ideology Kills People.
How Do I Get Over a Breakup When I Have to See My Ex Every Day? Episode 54
I Can’t Stand My Husband’s Family. What Do I Do About Thanksgiving? Episode 53
Faith and Relationships: An Interview with Rabbi and Couples Therapist David Fredman - Episode 52
My Husband Complains About My Cleaning. Is It About Communication? Episode 51
”Scenes from a Marriage”: Whoa, How About Those First Three Episodes! Episode 50
Your Money and Your Relationship: An Interview with Natalie and Dan Slagle - Episode 49
Maybe It Is About Communication After All! Episode 48
My Partner‘s Sexual Demands are Driving Me Nuts! Episode 47
Why Everything You Know About Couples Therapy is Wrong! Episode 46
Five Ridiculous Rules for Communicating with Your Partner - Episode 45
I Watch Porn. Do I Need to Tell My Partner? Episode 44
Communication, Sex, Intimacy--We're Live! Episode 43
Beshert: Our Own Love Story - Episode 42
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