Are you responsible for your partner’s happiness? Ever since we were young, it seems like we’ve been groomed to believe that our happiness is dependent on some external thing, person or relationship. This becomes even more apparent when we enter serious relationships or get married. Many of us feel the obligation or sense of duty to please and help our spouse find happiness.
In this episode, we take a deeper look at how attaching your personal happiness to another person can actually create a toxic relationship, and how it’s more important to take ownership of your happiness by looking within. Sometimes, we avoid facing our deeper issues and try to put a band-aid on them by jumping into new relationships or not acknowledging that we need to work on ourselves first.
0:00 Intro
1:13 Welcome banter
3:57 Start of topic
6:00 Why we feel obligated to make our partner happy
10:17 Work on yourself first
12:00 Becoming co-dependent on your spouse
15:49 Giving up control of your happiness
17:54 Avoiding the real issues
19:19 You can’t make someone else happy
23:30 Be empathetic and supportive
27:43 Its ok to not be ok
29:05 Takeaways & lessons learned
Do We Lose Our Individuality In A Relationship - Episode 25
My Spouse Doesn't Support My Dreams - Episode 24
Why Are We Always So Hard On Ourselves - Episode 23
Help! My Friends & Family Hate My Spouse - Episode 22
How Do You Love Again After Heartbreak - Episode 21
How We Overcame Cheating & Heartbreak - Episode 20
What Does Your Partner Bring To Your Life - Episode 19
What Traits Would You Like To Regain From Your Childhood - Episode 18
What Would You Like Old Age To Look Like - Episode 17
What Does Home Mean To You - Episode 16
Things We Wish We Knew In Our 20s - Episode 15
How Technology Has Changed Dating - Episode 14
Growing Up In The 90s - Episode 13
The Importance Of Self Care - Episode 12
Does Money Buy You Happiness? - Episode 11
Should You Get A Prenup? - Episode 10
Traditional Or Modern Wedding? - Episode 09
Long Distance Relationships Or Nah? - Episode 08
How Friendships Change As You Get Older - Episode 07
Traveling & The Lessons We Learned - Episode 06
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