OPR Coaches Nyla & Fatimah - Let's Talk About Polygyny

Let’s talk about Polygyny.
No, really. Let’s talk about it. Let’s talk about the stigma it comes with even though it’s ✨Sunnah ✨

Let’s talk about how the people who take the strongest stance against it are Muslim. 

Let’s talk about how people who are in polygamous relationships, or who grew up in a polygamous household, feel like they can’t share their story because the book is filled with long, winding chapters from people, who in practice, know NOTHING about it. 

Let’s talk about how the (grown) Man and Women in the relationship are belittled and talked down to constantly. 

Let’s talk about the backbiting and the slander that is said behind their backs.
Let’s talk about the insinuations and negativity people whisper amongst themselves. 

But most importantly, Let’s talk about how this is a Prophetic Practice and one that is encouraged if only to lift a burden on us. 

Allah says in the Quran,

فَانكِحُواْ مَا طَابَ لَكُم مِّنَ النِّسَاء مَثْنَى وَثُلاَثَ وَرُبَاعَ…فَإِنْ خِفْتُمْ أَلاَّ تَعْدِلُواْ فَوَاحِدَةً...

“…then marry [other] women, who seem virtuous to you, two or three or four; and if you fear that you cannot do them justice, then one [only]…” - Quran 4:3

And,

وَمَا كَانَ لِمُؤۡمِنٍ وَّلَا مُؤۡمِنَةٍ اِذَا قَضَى اللّٰهُ وَرَسُوۡلُهٗۤ اَمۡرًا اَنۡ يَّكُوۡنَ لَهُمُ الۡخِيَرَةُ مِنۡ اَمۡرِهِمۡ ؕ وَمَنۡ يَّعۡصِ اللّٰهَ وَرَسُوۡلَهٗ فَقَدۡ ضَلَّ ضَلٰلًا مُّبِيۡنًا‏ 

“It is not for a believing man or a believing woman, when Allah and His Messenger have decided a matter, that they should [thereafter] have any choice about their affair. And whoever disobeys Allah and His Messenger has certainly strayed into clear error.” - Quran 33:36