25. Healing Your Relationship to Pleasure with Samantha Stelk

In this powerful episode, Samantha Stelk, Women’s Self-love and Sexual Empowerment Coach, shares with us how women can reconnect to their bodies. We are getting rid of the stigma and diving into a place of love and freedom. If you’re ready to heal and feel the self-love that your body desires and deserves, this episode is for you.

The Lost Connection [02:13]

• “I teach women how to connect to their bodies in healing ways to feel more self-love.”
• “Our relationship to pleasure is distorted-there’s lots of stigma around it. We need to reclaim it, knowing that it is really beautiful and holy to connect to ourselves with our sacred,sexual energy.”

Feeling Unsafe in Ourselves [05:06]

• “We’ve learned that our bodies aren’t safe, and we disconnect from them.”
• “We don’t feel whole within ourselves, so we constantly reach outside ourselves for validation and to feel complete.”

Come Home to Yourself [08:39]

• “The process of self pleasure is a way to come home to ourselves.”
• “I had to break the idea that sexuality was bad and it was evil to feel pleasure. Unconsciously my body was tight, constricted, and bound up.”

Creating a Safe Space to Feel Loved [13:50]

• “It’s a life long relationship- it can go slow, there may be hiccups. Have compassion for yourself.”
• “Say, ‘My body is safe, my body is beautiful, I love my body’ to create that safe relationship with yourself.”
• “Being present can feel very scary, especially when dissociating is something that you commonly do. This is a process-comfort won’t come overnight.”

Stop the Suppression [19:52]

• “Our sexuality is so suppressed because as women, when we are connected to our body we are powerful and beautiful.”
• “Cultivating our feminie energy and our essence and our ability to receive is a practice that balances us. We can disconnect to connect.”
• “Create an environment around intimacy. Create an environment that is conducive for opening up.”

Connect to Your Femininity [24:00]

• “Using music can act as a way to connect with your femininity and your partner.”
• “Progress isn’t always reflected in our external environment, especially at the beginning. 
• “Exploring our anatomy can be so empowering because it can allow us to step out of that place of criticism and actually recognize that your body is divine.”
• “Having support to talk about pleasure ends the stigma. Find a community to help you free yourself.”

Don’t Miss Out On Your Connection [37:17]

• “This work is really about building a bridge to these parts of ourselves that have been neglected, suppressed and shamed, and bringing them into the light and building new empowering relationships.”
• “We have so much power and wisdom that we’re missing when we continue to just go through the motions and be on autopilot.”
• “Anything is possible when we’re connected to ourselves.”

Don’t Miss Out On Your Connection [46:00]

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