#103: How Long Should I Wait For My Partner's Recovery?

Caller Question: "My question is about intimacy avoidance. My husband and I have been separated for 16 months now and 12 months of that has been in separate countries with the inability to see each other due to Covid. We have a now 2-year-old. He has been sober for 5 months now. He is still unable to say if he wants the marriage or not. I have been accepting, patient, and hopeful but I feel in the last week I have reached apathy. He is due to come over to Australia in 2 weeks and I don't know how I feel anymore. I have been so excited and hopeful but he is so resistant and avoidant I am starting to feel frustrated and angry that he can’t make a decision. Is this normal and acceptable and a part of the process or is it him just waiting to see if he wants to fall back to his addiction and that he hasn’t truly accepted recovery? I feel miles ahead in my recovery and scared to be pulled back by him I want to let go but I don’t want to be unreasonable with time frames and regret it."

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