Be Careful Who You Are Complaining To

On this episode, Russell talks about his experience with what it was like when his wife, Collette, gave birth to twins.. He also gives good advice about being careful who you complain to.

Here are 3 cool things you’ll hear on today’s episode:

• How a twin baby birth makes a single baby birth look easy.
• Why you shouldn’t complain, but if you do, be careful about who you are complaining to.
• And find out which one of Russell’s kids is amazing at soccer.

So listen below to hear how Russell and his wife, Collette felt after delivering twins 10 years ago and why it taught him to be careful about who he’s complaining to.

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Hey everyone this is Russell Brunson and welcome to Marketing in Your Car. Hey everyone, I hope you are doing awesome today. I am actually in the car right now heading to go pick up my daughter from soccer practice, which is pretty exciting. She is amazing at soccer and so much fun to watch. So I’m going to go grab her and head home for some dinner.

I had something going through my head the last 3 or 4 days, actually it’s been almost a week now. And I wanted to share with you, I’ve been super busy and didn’t have time to do a podcast specifically about this, I thought I’ve got 5 minutes on my drive over to soccer practice, I’m going to share it with you guys really quick. It’s not a long one, but I think it’s an important one.

The title of this presentation is, be careful who you are complaining to. The reason why is because a lot of times we’re complaining about stuff, it seems like a big deal, but you put it in perspective of other people and other people’s lives, or even other people’s situations after that second, and they’re not that big of deal. And they kind of make you feel like an idiot when you realize sometimes.

Probably the most dramatic example of this, if you rewind 10 years ago, my wife as you probably have heard, had twin boys. If you’ve ever had twins, it’s kind of a crazy, amazing, but crazy experience. So we basically, my wife’s put on bed rest, she’s been taking all these drugs making sure the babies don’t come. And six weeks early all the sudden the water breaks. Boom babies are coming. Race to the hospital, all the craziness that ensues with that. We get there and it’s not like a normal baby delivery. Those who have had one baby, which I’ve had 3 times since, so I know how it works. It’s a doctor and a nurse hanging out in a room and a baby comes out. It’s pretty easy. When you have twins it’s insane. They think that you’re probably going to die, especially since this is our first kids, we’re freaking out anyway. They’re in the operating room. This huge operating room. There’s two NICU teams, there’s about 50 other people, okay I’m exaggerating a little, but there’s probably 20 some odd people in this room. Instead of being a nice quiet dark room, you normally give birth in, it’s lit up, there’s lights everywhere. It’s insane.

So my wife goes through this experience. Baby one comes out. Boom, everything is great, baby two comes out breech, which is a horrible experience. But she gives birth to both of them and then we go and see the kids and they’re in the NICU, which is an emotional thing. You see the babies come out and they rip them off and race them down to the NICU and I had a chance after both babies came out, to run to NICU to see all this craziness happening. Collette’s doing whatever women do after they give, I’m not really sure, but it kind of freaks me out to think about it. So they’re doing all that kind of stuff and she gets to come in later and it’s this emotional experience. She’s crying and sees the babies with all these cords and wires and it’s emotional. And all these things are happening and she finally gets to eat and drink.

And then we realize we have nothing for the babies to wear. So Collette gets cleaned up and we jump in the car and drive across the street to Fred Meyer to grab something for her to eat and for the babies. You know, a couple little things. So in the last 24 hours, my wife has given birth to not one, but two babies, she hasn’t eaten, hasn’t slept, hasn’t drank. It’s just been craziness. And I can’t imagine what that’s like. But as me, as the husband who’s just kind participating and watching this whole process, I’m like, this is horrible. I’m so grateful that it’s not me. And I’m tired and I’m onery and I’m sore and all these emotions and I didn’t even do anything, I just sat there.

So we get to the store and buying our things, and we’re checking out and there’s this teenage girl and she’s so annoyed to be there, and does not want to be talking to us. And we’re trying to be happy, but we’re obviously worn out, and I was like, “How’s it going?” and she’s like, “Okay.” You know like teenagers do. We’re like, “oh yeah, what’s going on?” and she’s like, “I’m tired.” And we’re like, “Oh what’s going on?” and I think it’s like 11 A.M. at this time, it’s been like 30 hours since we had woken up because my wife was about to have a baby. She’s like, “Oh I had to get up early this morning. I had to be here by 11. So I had to get up at 9. I’m so tired, I didn’t go to bed last night until like 1” and we’re like, “Oh so you only had 8 hours of sleep last night. And you’re so tired.” And we’re sitting there smiling like, I can’t believe you’re complaining about how tired you are. You had 8 hours of sleep last night. You’re a teenager, you have zero stress in the world. And you’re complaining.

And it was kind of funny to us at the time. So I thought it was kind of funny. Last week I hung out with these guys. If you listened to the podcast last week, Monday night I was at the office til 3 or 4 in the morning. Tuesday it was the same thing. I think I got 3 hours of sleep that night and then Wednesday I had a full day and then I went out to go meet some people and I’m talking to one of the guys and he’s like, “I’m so tired.” I’m like, “Oh really, what’s going on?” “I got off work at 6 and then the kids and dinner and all this stress or whatever, I’m just really, really tired. “ I just kind of smiled like, “Oh man, that sounds horrible. You’ve got to be tired. I mean you woke up, went to the office and then you came home and then you were off the clock and then you saw your kids and you were done. And that was it right? I have been at the office til past 3 A.M. the last two mornings in a row, and after I’m done with you guys today, I’m going back to the office.” And it just made me smile because I’m like, ‘You’re complaining about being tired and it’s just funny, because you don’t know who you’re complaining to.”Someone who has had 1/10th the sleep that you had and it just makes me kind of smile.

So what I wanted to share with you guys today is just be careful who you’re complaining to, because chances are people around all of us, have it worse off than we do. I was telling my kids last night. I was like, “If you think about 200 years ago, people lived in log cabins, they didn’t have toilets that flushed. They didn’t have phones or computers. 200 years ago, and everything prior to 200 years ago. 300 years, 400, 1000, 5000. Back as far as you want to go to the beginning of time. People had a really crappy time. If you complain about anything in this day and age, that’s kind of sad at this point. Do you have a roof over your head? Does your toilet flush? Okay, you’re doing fine then. Quit complaining.

So not only should we all just quit complaining as a whole, but when you are complaining, just be careful who you are complaining to. Because chances are, the person around you had just as tough a day, if not worse and you’re just going to look dumb if you’re complaining to them about what happened. Anyway, that’s what I got for today. I hope that helps somebody and it helps to keep us all….to quit complaining. To be grateful for the roof over our head, and flushing toilets and all the amazing stuff we’re blessed with because we were born today’s date in time. So that’s what I got for you guys today. Appreciate you all. Have an amazing day and I’ll talk to you all again soon. Bye.