Rejection: What To Do When Someone Pulls Away

What should you do when a love interest pulls back out of nowhere? Perhaps you’re hitting it off and then all of a sudden things change — texts messages become sparser, response times are longer or they simply wait for you to initiate. They’re still engaged and don’t seem to want to end things, but you’re left feeling confused and rejected. Jess & Brandon weigh in with their thoughts and scripts to help you respond and they also talk about their experiences with rejection. Adam and Eve are extending their offer of 50% off almost any item + FREE Shipping + some FREE goodies with code DRJESS. If you’ve got questions or topic suggestions for the podcast, submit them here. As well, you can now record your messages for us! Please record your message/question in a quiet room and use your phone’s headphones with a built-in mic if possible. And be sure to subscribe on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Podbean, Google Podcasts, Amazon Music & Stitcher! Rough Transcript: This is a computer-generated rough transcript, so please excuse any typos. This podcast is an informational conversation and is not a substitute for medical, health or other professional advice, diagnosis or treatment. Always seek the services of an appropriate professional should you have individual questions or concerns. Rejection: What To Do When Someone Pulls Away Participant #1: You're listening to the Sex with Dr. Jess podcast. Sex and relationship advice you can use tonight. Welcome to Sex with Dr. Jess Podcast. I'm your co host, Brandon. We're here with my liver. Lovely. Other half, Dr. Jess. Hello. I'm glad you've stopped making those ASMR sounds. Now I can do it again for everyone. It's really creepy. Your tongue ASMR well. You're supposed to listen, not look. Oh, yeah, true. I like the sound. There you go. It's the look of your tongue coming out of your mouth. I don't like it's not the point. Well, tonight we're having a quickie. That's the way I like it. I know. Cool brag. Cool brag, bro. We're going to be talking about dating and what to do when someone pulls away. So not when they ghost you, but when they kind of back out out of nowhere. So I did this interview, and people had sent in this hodgepodge of questions. Hodgepodge, you're 90 mortgage bargain of questions about what to do when a love interest pulls back out of nowhere. So they said, for example, you're hitting it off, and then all of a sudden, things change. Text messages are sparse. They used to text every day. They don't initiate contact like they used to, but they still respond to you, or they're answering with, like, one word, whereas they used to call and send essays, or they're saying that they're busy all of a sudden and don't have as much time, but then they come back and they're messaging you. So basically, they're not communicating that they want to end things, but they're sort of dragging you along so you feel rejected but also confused. Okay. It's a lot, right? One word answers. Okay. You know when somebody texts you back. Okay. I hate when I write, like, a whole bunch of messages, and then I just get closer and then I give you a thumbs up. Although I kind of like when I do that to other people, especially, like, work things. Double tap. Yeah, exactly. So we're going to be talking about this. I think it's kind of interesting. Before we dive into, I guess, our thoughts and our insights and, of course, acknowledging that there is no one size fits all. You can't really be an expert in these things. I've just kind of heard from other people what works and what doesn't work. Before we go there, I want to shout out Adam andeve.com because if you are in the market for something that vibrates, something latex, something sexy, something lace, Adam and Eve.com is giving you 50% off, plus free shipping, plus a bunch of free goodies with code. Dr. Jess, please make sure you use that code because you'll save the money. And also they'll know that you heard about them here.