86. Gaslighting 101

Gaslighting, has become a popular term that is thrown around often. But what is it?

Do you often leave conversations feeling confused in your relationship?

Do you sometimes ask yourself, am I just too sensitive? Do you find yourself apologizing often in your relationship?

Do you make excuses for your partner's behavior and often second guess yourself?

You might be in a relationship with a gaslighter.

Gaslighting is a term that is thrown around often, but it's far more than someone simply questioning our thoughts or our feelings

Gaslighting is psychological manipulation. It is typically intentional (although I do unpack in the episode how sometimes it can be an unconscious tactic) manipulative and designed to whittle away someone’s self-confidence.

Gaslighting is emotional abuse. And it's sneaky because it can be covert and subtle. The subtly can slowly erode and chip away at that gaslightee's. confidence and self worth.

Gaslighting typically takes place in romantic relationships, but it can take place in any relationships-friendships and family relationships.

In this episode, I’m sharing what gaslighting is, what it looks like in real life and ways to tell if you’re being gaslighted.

Listen to discover

• What gaslighting is
• Why do people gaslight
• How you spot gaslighting in your relationship
• What gaslighting might sound like
• 7 Signs your being Gaslight and what you can do about it.
• Tips for how to begin to trust yourself

"Gaslighters NEED control and power" -Krista Resnick

"Gaslighting is an unhealthy form of control arising from a need to dominate others." -Krista Resnick

"The difference with gaslighting is that there is another person or group that’s actively engaged in trying to make you second-guess what you know is true. If you don’t typically experience these feelings with other people but do with one particular individual, then you might be a victim of gaslighting."- Krista Resnick

"Gaslighting is a particularly sneaky and damaging form of abuse because it alienates us from our own internal compass. “It is hard to spot because, most of the times, it comes from people we love and trust." -Krista Resnick

"When words and actions don’t match, you will save yourself additional pain and disappointment by paying more attention to the person’s actions and behavior, rather than their words." -Krista Resnick

Learning about your emotions and tracking your patterns, allowing you to learn what triggers your feelings and gives helpful strategies to shift your moods." -Krista Resnick

"Part of what makes it painful and challenging to leave a gaslight relationship is that the gaslighter may be the one “someone” you have committed to, such as your best friend, your mom, your sister or brother. It’s okay to walk away from toxicity, regardless of the source."- Krista Resnick

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