The Importance Of Setting Relationship Goals

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Today Tom is talking about the importance of setting goals in your relationship, or if you are single just how important it is to set goals if you want to find a fulfilling relationship.

Setting goals helps you become proactive in your life rather than reactive. Taking time to reflect on what you want and taking small regular actions is crucial in order to find and create more fulfilling relationships.

One model that can help with taking positive action in your life and relationships is the GROW model. The GROW model was created by Sir John Whitmore and his colleagues in the late 1980s.

GROW stands for:

G - Goal

Here you want to consider what it is you want to work on and what you would like as a result of taking action. It is useful to create specific goals, that can also be measured, so that you can monitor your progress towards achieving them.

R - Reality

Consider where you are now. In order to monitor progress and use feedback effectively, it is crucial to know where you are starting from.

You may consider many different elements in your current situation, including what actions you have taken so far, what your current motivation is and also any things holding you back from getting the results you want.

O - Options

Here you want to brainstorm lots of different options regarding how to achieve your goal.
It can really help to make sure when you come up with options to avoid judging them, just write them down.

After you've created lots of options, then you can start to consider the advantages and disadvantages of the different options.

W - Will

Here you basically commit to action. Choose the options that you will act on and decide when you will start. You can rate the different options according to your level of commitment.

Taking action as soon as possible is always best and making sure that the steps you take action on are not too big. Small steps that are achievable lead to huge results over time.

After this podcast, take time to reflect on what goals you want to set and take action on in the area of relationships.

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