108. Inviting God Into Your Sex Drive

Welcome to episode #108!

In this episode, Matt and Braden talk with David, a leader in Pure Freedom Journey. David shares about the transformation he experienced when he learned to not repress his sex drive after his wife died, but to let God satisfy that area of his life instead.

There are layers of sorrow in times of loss

David’s wife passed away when they were just in their 40s. As a single man, David realized he had to give God all of his dreams, fantasies, and hopes for the future. Putting God first in his sexuality, however, was a journey that was harder than most. As a widower, he had already engaged in a healthy sex life with his beautiful bride, so not being able to continue to express himself in this way was a challenge.

He realized that although his wife had gone and he had changed, God remained present and unchanged. David could take comfort in this reality as he grieved the loss of primarily of his wife, but also, his sex life.

Sex is a gift to give, not a right to be had

Sex is not about taking, having, or getting for ourselves. It’s about giving ourselves and this gift of sex to the one we’re married to. Renewing the way we think about sex will change how we engage with our spouses, but also the way we handle our sex drive as single people.

David had to allow himself to feel and express all of what he felt about sex. As he shared openly with others, he was able to experience freedom and new ways of thinking that brought him closer to God. Without a sexual outlet in his life, he still claims that he is "more than just okay!"

God wants to be involved in our sexual desires

Pure Freedom Journey leads us to become pure in Christ in all ways. We learn how to allow Christ to be all things that we need in our lives. Jesus takes our holes, woulds, and failures, and reshapes them into something that He designed when we give them over to Him.

We can invite God into our sex lives, our sexual desires, and into our hearts when we are experiencing cravings. This leads to a fulfilmment that can only come from God!

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BRADEN HAFNER
Braden is the Regional Director in Alberta for FamilyLife Canada. He has been married for 13 years to his wife Kristen, and they live in Edmonton, Alberta. He is passionate about seeing marriages grow and thrive, and helping couples move to a deeper oneness with one another and with God. FamilyLife Canada has a variety of resources and events to help you and your spouse take your marriage to the next level. See what would benefit you at www.familylifecanada.com

MATT CLINE
Matt and his wife Louise raise their little guys, David and Oliver, in Edmonton, Alberta. He is honoured to do what he can to tackle the epidemic of pornography and sexual perversion in every way possible. Seeing lives and marriages get free and experience the love of God in profound ways is what drives him every day. He leads Restored Ministries, is a certified speaker and coach for the John Maxwell Team, and formerly played hockey in the WHL and for Hockey Canada. You can visit www.restoredministries.ca.