CC: Reair: EP 100: How to Find Yourself When You Feel Isolated and Lack Self-Esteem with Judy
This episode is about being your authentic self and speaking your truth. I coach today’s caller, Judy, through her feelings of isolation, and empower her to have an honest conversation with her husband, and herself, about her needs.
Loneliness is an epidemic, especially in this day and age when so many of us live alone. We are not close to our family geographically, or we don’t have a soul family or community to be a part of. We need a healing connection. We need to feel part of something, part of a tribe. We need to feel connected to ourselves. What often perpetuates a feeling of loneliness is a disconnection to ourselves that comes from judging ourselves and being hard on ourselves. If you suffer from loneliness or a lack of self-esteem you are not alone. Let the fact that you are not alone motivate you to gain confidence and to connect with a community.
Speaking your truth is when you say what’s true for you, and you are able to communicate your needs. When are you not speaking your truth?
Many of us think people pleasing is a way to get love and find validation. We think if people see the real us, they may not like us. The more you show the real you, and the more authentic you are, your relationship with yourself will improve, your self-esteem will improve, and the intimacy and connection you have with other people will also improve.
It’s great to make other people happy but it’s more important to please ourselves first, by making self-honoring choices. People pleasing could be the reason you are feeling isolated. On some level, people pleasing is draining.
Drop the people pleasing, up your self-esteem by making self-honoring choices and get out there and find your tribe!
Consider/Ask Yourself:
Judy’s Question:
Judy wants to know how to find herself and how to raise her self-esteem.
Judy’s Key Insights and Ahas:
How to Get Over It and On With It:
Takeaways:
Resources:
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Inner Circle Membership Community
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Jill@ChristineHassler.com
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