112. Protecting Your Kids From Porn with Kristen Jenson

Welcome to episode #112!

In this episode, Matt and Braden talk to the author of Good Pictures Bad Pictures and founder of Defend Young Minds, Kristen Jenson about how to talk to our children about porn in age appropriate ways.

What do I tell my children about porn?
Kristen has a three-step outline to help you know how to talk to your young children about porn.

1. Definition
2. Warning
3. Plan

Defining porn helps kids recognize porn in all of the diverse ways that porn is produced (cartoon, real life, anime, inappropriate visuals with clothes on, etc).

Warning kids about the dangers of porn and why to turn away is crucial because if they don't know what harms they can incur from pornography, the enticement of it will take over and they'll find ways to search it out.

When kids have a plan in place that they've communicated with an adult beforehand, it helps them know exactly what to do when they see porn. Having a plan eliminates room for shame because it gets things in the open and the child feels great that he/she did the right thing.

When should I talk to my children about porn?
Talking about porn is always done in an age appropriate way. Kristen has multiple resources and book on how to talk to our kids about sex and our bodies in the preschool years.

As adults, we understand to a greater degree what pornography is, but we aren't going to tell our young kids information they can't handle. We have to start young, but always by doing it in an age appropriate way. Being proactive will set our kids up for success!

How to protect your child with devices
Your child needs an internal filter. Talking to them with open communication with some regularity is going to be the best way to protect your children from porn. This will establish a warm bond, which is crucial in order for them to be open with you.

When you're talking about devices, let them use your device. Don't give them their own. If it's their own, they have control, but if it's yours, you can set passwords and check on it at any time.

When giving them access to a device, here are three things to consider:

1. Establish guidelines
2. Monitor the child
3. Have consequences or give rewards based on their choices

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BRADEN HAFNER
Braden is the Regional Director in Alberta for FamilyLife Canada. He has been married for 13 years to his wife Kristen, and they live in Edmonton, Alberta. He is passionate about seeing marriages grow and thrive, and helping couples move to a deeper oneness with one another and with God. FamilyLife Canada has a variety of resources and events to help you and your spouse take your marriage to the next level. See what would benefit you at www.familylifecanada.com

MATT CLINE
Matt and his wife Louise raise their little guys, David and Oliver, in Edmonton, Alberta. He is honoured to do what he can to tackle the epidemic of pornography and sexual perversion in every way possible. Seeing lives and marriages get free and experience the love of God in profound ways is what drives him every day. He leads Restored Ministries, is a certified speaker and coach for the John Maxwell Team, and formerly played hockey in the WHL and for Hockey Canada. You can visit www.restoredministries.ca.