Being Present With Your Partner - How Not to Mix Up Past, Present and Future

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In today's episode we talk about the importance of being fully present with your partner and how you might be working on achieving this. We spend a lot of time thinking about the future or the past. Worries about future uncertainties or troublesome past experiences often take us away from being in the present moment.

Often we overreact to a certain experience because we are conflating past and present. We attach old meanings to our current experiences.  Often these meanings or interpretations don't actually fit what is going on right now. Being present entails the capacity to think about our thinking, to be able to reflect on our feelings and reactions.

With awareness of the present moment you respond more appropriately to situations.

In this episode we talk you through some activities you can try out to bring yourself more into the present moment and to develop more self awareness.

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Struggling with a lot of conflict and arguments in your relationship? Learn about communicating effectively and addressing common relationship problems in our Stop Arguing, Start Loving mini course.

Learn everything you always wanted to know about building and maintaining loving relationships in our comprehensive course The Relationship Maze, starting with understanding yourself in relationships to understanding your partner and understanding what makes for a successful relationship. We look at common causes of relationship problems and offer solutions. Learn how to address relationship problems and questions without breaking up.