95: Summer Series-Befriending your Anger with Anchen Texter

We have been conditioned to believe that anger is a negative emotion-especially for us women who have learned to be 'nice."

However, in today's episode, I want to help you understand that anger is a survival mechanism, rooted in passion. If you have a strong desire needing to be expressed that is thwarted, you will have anger. Just think about the messaging we receive as children around our emotions:

Don’t cry.

Don’t be scared.

Don’t be angry-it doesn’t look good on you.

Smile, it makes you look better…

But anger is about understanding what is important to you. It's about identifying what your values are What you stand up for. What the essential aspects of your life are that you hold dear to your heart.

My guest today Anchen Texter is a licensed Dynamic Emotional Integration® Trainer and Consultant and instructor at Empathy Academy. She specializes in teaching about anger and boundaries, emotion-regulation, and self-care and preventing empathic burnout. She's the author of five courses; Befriending Anger, Befriending Sadness, Befriending Shame, and Befriending Fear, and the workshop Awakening to Your Emotions.

Anchen teaches us in this episode that emotions are at the core of who we are and how we operate. She explains that when you know what you're feeling, then you have a whole lot more power in your life to decide how to act, what kind of relationships you want to have, where you want to spend your time, and the kind of memories you will create. Emotions literally affect everything. When you can listen to what your emotions are telling you, then you are making your emotions into your allies.

"Emotions have important messages for you. You can trust them."~Anchen Texter

"Everyday is a huge options of choices, and all of those choices are based on your values. When you know your values and what matters to you, life becomes a lot easier." ~Anchen Texter

"Your emotions are there to support you in being who you are." ~Anchen Texter

"Conflict is feedback and it can be a beautiful gift to bring us closer together."~Krista Resnick

"Boundaries are about going within, feeling your way through it and trusting yourself." ~Krista Resnick

LINKS:

BUILD BETTER BOUNDARIES

INSTAGRAM

FACEBOOK

EMPOWERED BOUNDARIES FACEBOOK COMMUNITY

EMOTIONAL ALLIANCE

EMPATHY ACADEMY

YOU TUBE CHANNEL

THE LANGUAGE OF EMOTIONS BOOK

ADDITIONAL RESOURCES:

THE DANCE OF ANGER