Enabling just feeds the addiction and makes it feel comfortable in our homes.
We can begin the process of intervention with a “soft intervention” that will help us identify and begin to eliminate enabling practices.
One way to help accept the idea of non-enabling is to join Al-Anon where we learn the art of detachment. We love the addict, but we no longer tolerate or allow sick behaviour.
The main ways to stop enabling serve to make addiction uncomfortable in our homes. Our goal is to make the drinking and drugging life so arduous so that the alcoholic or addict can’t take it anymore and recovery begins looking good.
Al-Anon will teach us how to regain our self-respect so that we no longer take unnecessary responsibility for the addict’s disorder.