Conflict - Do You Argue Effectively With Others?

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How do you feel about arguments in your life? Do you tend to find them deeply uncomfortable, terrifying or do you enjoy a good argument and consider arguing a good way of clarifying your mutual expectations? Are you aware of your argument style? You can take our short Argument Style quiz to find out more about your style of arguing.

In today's session we talk about conflict in relationships. Depending on your own experiences in the past you are likely to relate to conflict as deeply troubling or more neutrally as a natural experience in any relationship.  If you have children, the way that you manage conflict in your relationship is absolutely crucial. Get it wrong over a long period of time and you can cause a lot of long lasting harm.

Often you argue about something on the surface, e.g. your partner coming home late, but you may actually experience a frustration that goes much deeper than the situation would call for. 

You might be very good at bringing up frustrations in your relationship and communicating them clearly to your partner or you may struggle with this. You may experience your partner's communication as deeply difficult.

There is much to explore about arguing and communicating effectively. We have developed a short course - Stop Arguing, Start Loving - where we talk about the underlying causes of arguments, reasons why you argue and ways of managing arguments more effectively.  We aimed it at parents but the course is relevant to anyone. 

• Find out more about the reasons for your arguments
• Learn to manage strong feelings
• Understand the patterns of communication in your relationship
• Learn strategies to resolve conflict more effectively

The course has lots of activities where you can explore challenges in your relationship that lead to arguments and also find better ways of communicating with each other. We believe that learning to manage conflict well in relationship is particularly important if you have children.

Contact us for information about individual counselling/psychotherapy, couples therapy, clinical supervision or CPD training.
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Struggling with a lot of conflict and arguments in your relationship? Learn about communicating effectively and addressing common relationship problems in our Stop Arguing, Start Loving mini course.

Learn everything you always wanted to know about building and maintaining loving relationships in our comprehensive course The Relationship Maze, starting with understanding yourself in relationships to understanding your partner and understanding what makes for a successful relationship. We look at common causes of relationship problems and offer solutions. Learn how to address relationship problems and questions without breaking up.