E97 Sandra Henri - making that ONE DAY define the rest of your life

Summary

What can weddings teach us? To be intentional, to build ritual, to connect with our community, to co-create celebration, to build co-relational practices. Weddings are the perfect ‘on ramp’ for people to consider their long term shift for the way they live their life - its feel good activism that's fun, love filled and purposeful.

Show Notes

• Creating a wedding carbon calculator 
• Her aha moment on the ground in Malawi 
• The average western wedding costs $35k 
• Incorporating more giving into our weddings
•  Using weddings as a chance to give back
• The fundamental lack of sustainability mindsets in the wedding sphere
• Creating a day that represents peoples truth 
• Rewriting wedding culture
• Covid weddings - smaller, simpler and more meaningful
• Reverse the wedding plan design to build from the basics up
• A midday nap = success
• Enough is living a life where I can look after myself, my family and my mental health 
• Learning to be satisfied with who we are within ourselves
• The more grateful you are the more generous you are
•  Building your community through your wedding
• Wedding rituals
• Coregulating by placing a hand on each others heart and breathing together
• Cocreating the wedding with your community
• Slowing down and honouring the ceremony
• Repeating the wedding rituals with a small group of special people
• Weddings are one of our very last traditions and this means it carries much weighty expectation
• The smaller weddings are more intimate and allow more room for open emotional vulnerability
• Weddings that don’t follow the rules but create their own patterns
• Ensuring that you are awake and heard by each other not just on your wedding day but for a lifetime
• The way you celebrate your wedding day is the foundation for the way you will spend your life together
• If the wedding planning is all driven by the bride does this set the tone for the relationship
• Having the hard questions about values alignment before you get to the altar
• Reframing value and reconnecting multi generations - yearning to recreate traditional connections
• Shared stories across generations
• Using our privilege to share knowledge and action resilience
• Reducing travel and guest size is the single greatest way to reduce a wedding footprint
• Avoid imported flowers opt instead for ‘slow flowers’
• Not letting pinterest be the guide but the seasons
• Think about every decision you make as something that can regenerate, sustain or degenerate something or someone
• Small weddings are more relaxed
• Defining a united vision and purpose of something thats greater than yourself

References

• Less stuff, more meaning
• Wedding footprint calculator

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