338: How to stop competing with your friendship group

If you find yourself forever competing with your friendship group, this episode is for you.

The chat was inspired by the book, My Brilliant Friend by Elena Ferrante, a story revolved around the friendship and rivalry between 2 girls growing up in post WWII Naples. The themes in the book are relatable, even though I grew up in Australia in the 1990s and 2000s. I remember feeling rejected with sense of competition between friends. Feeling lonely, like an outcast. The jealousy and the worry of what others think. Not only a fantastic, can’t put it down kinda read, it inspires reflection of your own life.

No wonder this book series (yes there are 3 more books to read) is so popular.

This is what we spoke about during the episode

• You can be competitive with each other but still, want each other to succeed.
• Competition can create suffering.
• Having an ally over a competitor is just a more joyful way to live. When you help each other, it’s a productive relationship.
• Reflect and check in, what’s your sense of competition like. Is it bringing good or is it bringing others and yourself down?
• Jealousy can be a big reason why friendships become toxic. What can you do about it?
• If it does not come naturally to you, being happy for someone else is a practice.
• Seek inspiration and motivation from someone else’s success. Get out of your ego. Let go of the competition.

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Always merrymaking,

Emma + Carla

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