119: 3 Steps to Stop Overworking Even if You’re a Perfectionist
For most of us, saying no is super difficult. This is even more true for recovering perfectionists! But why is it such a challenge?
In this episode, you’ll learn about a famous and deceptively simple study involving looking at lines on a screen. You’ll learn what it taught us about people-pleasing and how we change our behaviors when we’re with other people. You may be surprised by this study and what it means for that one mental habit that’s draining your time and energy - worrying what everyone else thinks.
Be sure to listen all the way through for my step by step system to saying no to extra work without feeling guilty. You can say no and you can do it confidently.
Show Highlights
[01:51] The Asch Conformity Study is similar to a brain teaser.
[03:45] This study showed that often we will conform to the majority.
[05:30] Using a simple sticky note, try this quick activity.
[06:24] It’s really hard to say no to the extra work you are asked to do. Here are some steps to saying no more confidently.
[07:04] Step 1: Use a script.
[08:19] Step 2: Remind yourself why you’re saying no.
[08:58] Step 3: Practice.
[10:01] Our brains are wired to care what other people think and that’s not always a bad thing, but it can lead to people-pleasing.
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