Sex Q&A Quickie

Should I use Kegel balls? What's a good prostate toy that's not too big? Can I isolate my vaginal and anal muscles in pelvic floor contractions? Do I have a wedding ring fetish? Jess answers your questions on this week's quickie episode. Here's a special offer for our listeners: save 25% off on Happier Couples Inc with code PODCAST. Check out the Mindful Sex course or learn a few techniques with Mind Blowing Oral. If you have questions for the podcast, submit them here. And please be sure to subscribe so you don’t miss an episode! You can find the podcast on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Podbean, Google Podcasts, Amazon Music & Stitcher! Rough Transcript: This is a computer-generated rough transcript, so please excuse any typos. This podcast is an informational conversation and is not a substitute for medical, health, or other professional advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the services of an appropriate professional should you have individual questions or concerns. Sex Q&A Quickie Participant #1: You're listening to the Sex with Dr. Jess Podcast, sex and relationship advice you can use tonight. Hey, Jess O'Reilly here for a quickie episode of the Sex with Dr. Jess Podcast, and today I will be answering your questions. If you have questions, head on over to Sex with the Doctors jess.com and send them in, and I will do my best to get to them in the upcoming weeks and months. Today we're going to be talking about the pelvic floor vaginal eggs. I have a question about prostate toys and looking forward to hopefully sharing some useful insights that benefit everyone, whether you are the person who sent in the question or not. Before we get started, I want to mention that I am running a promo on my website, happiercouples.com, and you can save 25% off all of the video courses, so mindful sex last longer in bed. The oral sex course is all about blow jobs, hand jobs, touching, cunningas, going down, and anything else you see on there that might interest you. So use code podcast to save 25% at happiercouples.com. Let's dive into these questions. The first one is short and sweet. I love it. Do vaginal eggs work? Okay, so vaginal eggs or balls are inserted into the vaginal canal and people usually use them to work on their pelvic floor. But here's the thing. Eggs or balls, what they do is they help to give you some biofeedback so that you can actually feel your pelvic floor muscles and identify them. They give you something physical to feel inside of you, but they're not necessary. They're not actually doing anything on their own. So it's not as though or doing kegels with a pelvic floor ball or egg is more beneficial. That's not the case. People just find them useful because it helps them to identify those pelvic floor muscles. But once you've learned to identify your pelvic floor muscles, they're really not necessary. And pelvic floor therapists will tell you to use them with supervision because they are not good for all conditions. So, for example, they might maybe recommend them for someone with weakness, but they definitely wouldn't recommend them for someone with pain or tension oftentimes. And again, I'm not a pelvic floor therapist. So if you find them useful and they're not causing any issues for you because some people will find that they are more prone to infection or pain, you know your body best, right? So if it's working for you, sure, go ahead and use them. But if possible, please see a pelvic floor physiotherapist so that they can tell you if they're going to do more harm than good. And they can also show you how to use them and how not to use them. Next question is actually from the same person. They say when I do a kegel, I can't help but tense my anus. And I've heard that I'm supposed to relax my butt when I do a kegel. How do I separate the two? Okay, so the information I think the instructions you hear around this can be confusing.