Relationship Killers - Not Expressing Your Frustrations

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In today's episode we talk about the difficulty of not being able to express 'negative' feelings, behaviour or experiences in your relationship as one of the main relationship problems. This lack of expression is often driven by a fear of upsetting your partner or and ultimately losing your partner, in particular if you regard conflict as dangerous.

Sitting on your frustrations can lead to resentment. Often frustrations find expressions in low level attacks which may be described as bickering, as passive aggressive attacks or sulking.  This can be particularly hard for children who frequently get triangulated to take pressure out of the system.

People come to couples counselling often when these patterns are very set in. Ideally it would be a good idea to learn to communicate your frustrations early on in the relationship. This can be learned. Expressing frustrations in your relationship in a way that enables your partner to listen will create more closeness and intimacy in your relationship.

If you are currently single and looking for a relationship this is a good time to start thinking about your communication style.

The Relationship Maze courses:
What is your argument style? Find out in our short quiz. You can find a link on our website: https://therelationshipmaze.com.

Struggling with a lot of conflict and arguments in your relationship? Learn about communicating effectively in our Stop Arguing, Start Loving mini course:  https://therelationshipmaze.com/relationshipconflictvsl2.

Learn everything you always wanted to know about building and maintaining  loving relationships in our comprehensive course The Relationship Maze, starting with understanding yourself in relationships to understanding your partner and understanding what makes for a successful relationship.

Related Relationship Maze podcasts:
Conflict - Do you argue effectively with others?
Do you get drawn into other people’s relationship struggles? Or do you draw someone in to yours?

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Struggling with a lot of conflict and arguments in your relationship? Learn about communicating effectively and addressing common relationship problems in our Stop Arguing, Start Loving mini course.

Learn everything you always wanted to know about building and maintaining loving relationships in our comprehensive course The Relationship Maze, starting with understanding yourself in relationships to understanding your partner and understanding what makes for a successful relationship. We look at common causes of relationship problems and offer solutions. Learn how to address relationship problems and questions without breaking up.