EP23: Carlos Marin Interviews Kimberly about Natural Birth, Gender Roles, and Explorat

EP: Magamama talks about natural birth, gender roles, and exploratory sex with Carlos Marin Jr.

In this episode, I share:

• My birth story and soul calling to write The Fourth Trimester;  the realities of postpartum care today
• Information for men postpartum, role of the masculine in birth, and why we’re not optimizing our biology
• How to reframe sex postpartum; why childbirth is the one thing that makes us reconsider the way we’re doing sex
• Why birth is also a death and other thoughts on rites of passage
• Thoughts on losing control and increasing your capacity to hold charge  
• Natural birth vs. hospital birth and how to choose the right care providers
• Tid-bits on exploratory sex, the connection between birth and sex, and sexological bodywork

 

You will hear:

• Is my pelvis going to split in two? And more from my birth story (2:52)
• Is postpartum depression related to a lack of information? (5:24)
• What’s missing from the 6-week postpartum visit (6:29)
• Information for men postpartum (8:09)
• Reframing the conversation about sex (8:55)
• It’s okay to not want penetrative sex and other ways to connect (9:10)
• Childbirth is one thing that makes us consider the way we’re doing sex (9:27)
• What is a rite of passage? How does it differ in other cultures? (12:11)
• One of the hallmarks of a rite of passage is a death (13:39)
• A man’s role in birth is to protect the birth space (21:13)
• How do you approach prenatal education? (26:25)
• The two doctors in North County San Diego for natural birth (27:20)
• Realizing natural births are as safe as hospital births (28:13)
• How do you prepare someone to lose control? (30:12)
• Exploratory sex is awesome preparation for birth (31:12)
• Many women don’t get to lose control during a hospital birth (34:08)
• Go to the doulas and the midwives to find natural birth doctors (36:00)
• Find a care provider who believes in women and natural childbirth = activist (36:50)
• How Carlos dealt with seeing his wife in “pain” during childbirth (38:08)
• History of birth, witch trials; patriarchy (40:26)
• On hospitals and creating a birthing environment (45:13)
• What is a doula? (47:17)
• The Fourth Trimester (Dec. 26) and why people should read (51:30)
• My vision that all women can reclaim full sexual expression (59:40)
• What does postpartum mean to you? (1:00:21)
• How do birth and sex relate? (1:01:25)
• What do you do as a sexological bodyworker? (1:09:29)

Two doctors in North County San Diego for natural birth:

Dr. Capetanakis at Scripps Encinitas; Dr. Cobb at Pomerado