One of the most amazing things about crushes is how it's
better off if you don't get to know them at all. As long as someone remains
sort of a mystery and out there in the beyond, you can idealize them. You can
think all sorts of things. They can be all sorts of things for you. Maybe
they've just been just attractive enough to catch your eye and maybe you learn
a couple of things about them, their name, which immediately seems exotic to
you, even if it's a name that 20 people you already know have.
Just a couple of other details and you can start to fill in
this imaginary person and their life and what it might be if the two of you
could actually know each other. You know, of course, what happens when you get
to know a person you have a crush on? It's the best and fastest way to cure the
crush.
Maybe it's not a romantic crush. It could be a professional
crush, someone you've admired for a long time, someone whose accomplishments
you've seen from afar, and you've thought to yourself, I want to be that kind
of rockstar in my profession. I want to be like them. And that's where that old
maxim comes in, Never meet your heroes. Not because your crush or your hero or
the one you admire from afar is actually disappointing in their being. It's
just that they're disappointing because they're actually people and not just
your idea of what a person could be. You've built up the perfect complement to
yourself, and then you're confronted with the reality of their humanity, and it
can be crushing.
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