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The other night me and my girlfriend were getting frisky. She starts giving me a ... I really like s, who doesn't? A couple minutes in she goes "do you want to have ?" And I say "I'm really enjoying this " so she keeps going. Another couple minutes in she goes "are you sure you would rather do this than have " and I say "I'm enjoying this and it feels great, but we can if you want". She says "I don't mind" and keeps going.
Another couple minutes in she says "I feel like I want to have but you want a " and I say "I think you're right" and she keeps going. I say "are you sure you want to do this?" And she says "I don't mind" and keeps going. We finish, start cuddling, and she says to me "I feel a bit guilty that I don't give you many because you eat me out so often".
Don't get me wrong - I love eating her out. I love hearing her moan, and making her feel good. I don't do it because I want something. I do it because I enjoy doing it. But I don't get a lot of in return. Maybe a 1:8 kind of ratio. I don't expect them. But I like them.
So I said "it would be nice if it happened more often".
She got really upset with me. The next day (today) we went out to a dinner and afterwards she started tearing up and telling me that she was angry with me, that it was awful that I'd say something like that. That it was really rude of me. She told me that if were that important to me that I should go back to one of my " face ex girlfriends". She said I was pressuring her because she doesn't like giving (she had never told me that before, how was I meant to know?) and it was awful that I made her keep going last night even though I could tell she wasn't into it (I gave her multiple chances to say she wanted to stop)
I told her that I felt like we should be able to talk and discuss things like that rather than get mad and have it turn into an argument. I said I didn't think it would upset her because if she said the equivalent to me ("you don't eat me out often enough") I'd take it as constructive feedback and do it more often, or just tell her I didn't want to instead of getting angry.
She ended up telling me that if I expect to get in return for eating her out (which I've never said) then she doesn't want me to ever eat her out again. She also told me that she decided she's only going to do it when she feels like it and not when I want it.
Did I handle this poorly? Should I not have said that? Should I have done anything differently? I'm a little upset at the outcome but I understand and respect it. I'm open to any feedback about the situation or any similar experiences.
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