Stay or go? How to know whether to break up or commit to your relationship
Are you at a crossroads in your relationship? If you’re questioning whether it’s time to breakup with or further commit to your partner, today’s episode is for you. We review the signs that a relationship is healthy (or not!), including how much conflict is too much. We also discuss how and when to bring up concerns to your partner along with actionable tools you can use to clarify whether it’s time to stay or go.
Key Takeaways
00:00 - Intro
03:44 - What are the signs that a relationship is healthy or unhealthy?
10:47 - How much conflict is too much in a relationship?
22:37 - At what point do I bring up concerns I have in a relationship? How should I bring them up?
31:36 - What are some approaches that can help me decide whether to break up or commit to my relationship?
Resources and links
For full show notes with links, visit relationshipcenter.com/podcast
If you’re in imminent physical, emotional, or sexual danger in your relationship, get out safely. The National Domestic Abuse Hotline offers free, confidential support 24/7.
Warmlines - free peer-run listening line staffed by people in mental health recovery themselves
One Love Foundation has excellent resources for determining whether a relationship is healthy or not (see their list of 10 Signs of Healthy and Unhealthy Relationships) and for safely planning a breakup.
Relationship OCD: A CBT-Based Guide to Move Beyond Obsessive Doubt, Anxiety, and Fear of Commitment in Romantic Relationships by Sheva Rajaee
Episode: What to look for in a long term partner
The Gottman Institute
Stan Tatkin's books
How to Not Die Alone, by Logan Ury
Deeper Dating, by Ken Page
Antidotes to The Four Horseman
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