Castles Made of Sand - When Disappointment Takes Hold

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In today's episode we talk about the experience of feeling disappointed.  Disappointment is the roll call of feelings that you have when something did not happen or wasn't as good as hoped for. We all had experiences in life where our hopes were dashed and expectation that we had were not met. These expectations might relate to other people, situations or an idea about our own capacities.  The ensuing feeling of not having our expectations met can be one of sadness, anger, loss, betrayal and frustrated hopes.  Your expectations might either be more realistic or they might be more in the realm of fantasy (e.g. winning the lottery).

Your partner is likely to disappoint you at some point in the relationship by not meeting your expectations. This is particularly likely to happen once you have left the initial honeymoon stage behind: you are now likely to see your partner warts and all rather than just a projection of a prince or princess.  We look at how you can minimise disappointments with each other in the relationship.

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Expectations - How You Create Your Own Relationship Disappointment

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Struggling with a lot of conflict and arguments in your relationship? Learn about communicating effectively and addressing common relationship problems in our Stop Arguing, Start Loving mini course.

Learn everything you always wanted to know about building and maintaining loving relationships in our comprehensive course The Relationship Maze, starting with understanding yourself in relationships to understanding your partner and understanding what makes for a successful relationship. We look at common causes of relationship problems and offer solutions. Learn how to address relationship problems and questions without breaking up.