Anadi James in Conversation with Julia Chi about intentional dialogue as the bedrock to relating consciously

In this podcast Julia  has a conversation with her husband Anadi about being conscious in relating, with the bedrock of this being Intentional Dialogue.

Intentional Dialogue which was created by Harville Hendrix and Helen Hunt to help couple relate consciously.

Intentional dialogue keeps the space clean and clear between anyone in a conversation
We often don’t realise how little we are listening to our partner, children, friends or colleagues but are listening instead to our own internal response. 

We need to fully hear the message a person is sending so that they will feel deeply heard. 

The realisation that you accurately understand someone is wonderful for them and a growth experience for you, even if you do not agree with them! 

One of the most effective forms of healing communication between persons in any intimate relationship, or in fact in any relationship is the intentional dialogue.

It consists of three steps: mirroring, validation, and empathy.

Practicing these steps will feel awkward at first as well as difficult. But as you practice, the lines between each step slowly dissolve and you move from practicing dialogical to it becoming a natural way of communicating. 

Dialogue helps us understand the unique inner world of the person you are in dialogue with. We learn to see how their world works for them and so create and maintain connection, rather than misunderstanding each other or in conflict.