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#067 When is a consequence actually a threat? And how to swap consequences for connection
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Today I’m asking when is a consequence actually a punishment? And how can I swap consequences for connection and still get my kids to bed on time??!
This episode was inspired by a parent who asked me about her child who was reluctant to get ready for bed. “If you don’t put on your pyjamas we won’t have time to read your bedtime story” Is this a consequence or a punishment?
Listen in to find out.
In this episode, I discuss the fine line between consequences and punishments.
I ask the question of whether or not taking away a story at bedtime is a consequence or a punishment.
I explain that the key question to ask yourself is what is your agenda? If you are using the threat of losing a story as leverage to make your child do what you want, then it is a punishment.
However, if it is genuinely not possible to read the story due to time constraints, then it is a natural consequence.
I also discuss how it is important to be honest with yourself and to not use this as a way to manipulate or control your child's behaviour.
Timestamps:
00:03:45 Set realistic expectations.
00:06:25 Connect with your child through fun.
00:11:10 Boost connection before bed.
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