Understanding Co-Dependency and Interdependency and Making Space for Your Partner and Each Other's Differences-Jes Diverges

During this episode, Jes Diverges shares a little about her AuDHD journey, the lessons she has learned along the way (and in her current relationship), as well as the work she is doing to help other neurodivergent folks. (Please excuse the technical difficulties we had for the first few minutes of the episode...thanks!) Some of the topics Jes addresses include: Knowing where your partner is, accepting who they are, making space for them and not trying to fix them. The importance of understanding that you're not responsible for anyone's emotions but your own. Looking at differences as important for the relationship. The importance of two people working to cultivate the relationship. Co-dependency and enabling leads to encouraging dependency. Interdependency and how both partners have autonomy and connection and this helps encourage mutual growth and well-being. When a supportive partnership looks like "co-dependency" to the outside world. The value of active listening and appreciation of effort. Don't compromise your core values. "Shoulds" aren't healthy. Determine what you are willing to accept. Lowering expectations in a positive way can help reduce anxiety. The importance of the "flow state" for autistics and how it helps with regulation. How "monotropism" helps explains a lot of autism. Hyperconnectivity and less neural pruning in neurodivergent brains. The importance of making transitions smoother. Sticky hand thinking. Jes is a coach and is creating the "Combo Meal Confidence Course" to help other neurodivergent people live their best, most authentic lives. You can reach Jes at: jes@jesdiverges.com. You can also follow her on Instagram and TikTok @jesdiverges, or check out her website at: jesdiverges.com _________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________ If you are interested in learning more about the support groups that Mona offers for neurotypical/non-autistic partners or neurodiverse couples, please send her an email at: neurodiverselove4u@gmail.com. or visit her website at: www.neurodiverselove.com Follow Mona on Instagram @neurodiverse_love or ⁠click here⁠ to sign up for the Neurodiverse Love Newsletter. Also, if you are interested in buying a deck of the Neurodiverse Love Conversation Cards, the digital deck is now available for $11.  ⁠Click here⁠ to buy your deck today. Lastly, if you missed the Neurodiverse Love Conference you can now get "unlimited" access to the 27 AMAZING  pre-recorded conference sessions for only $98, just ⁠click here⁠ Thanks for being a part of the Neurodiverse Love Community! --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/neurodiverse-love/support