259: Overcome Perfectionism and Self-doubt by Embracing Your Flawesome Self

Today’s guest has a fascinating and important perspective on what it is to live authentically, or as she describes it, “flawesomely”. Kristina Mänd-Lakhiani is the co-founder of Mindvalley, one of the world’s most powerful life transformation platform with a following of 20 million and still growing. She is an entrepreneur, writer, international speaker, artist, philanthropist, and host of the podcast, Flawesome with Kristina.

With 20 years of experience in the personal growth industry, her content has touched the lives of tens of thousands of students. Today she joins Finding Brave to discuss her book Becoming Flawesome: The Key to Living An Imperfectly Authentic Life.

Kristina explains what it means to live “as ourselves without ourselves” and opens up about the revelation she had when she realized that she was missing herself. We discuss our views on perfectionism, why you can’t recover from being yourself, and the distinction between unlearning certain behaviors versus what’s part of your personality.

We also explore the concept of emotional analgesia and the relationship between this and gender roles. Kristina also shares what she hopes readers will glean from her book and we conclude with a practical step towards embracing our imperfections. Tune in to find out how you too can overcome perfectionism and self-doubt by embracing your “flawesome” self.

 

Key Highlights From This Episode:

• An introduction to today’s guest: Kristina Mänd-Lakhiani. [01:16]

• What it means to live as ourselves without ourselves. [03:07]

• What Kristina missed about herself when she realized that she did miss herself. [07:58]

• How Kristina views perfectionism, how it shows up, and how to address it. [09:19]

• What emotional analgesia means and how to overcome the ideal of not feeling things. [15:30]

• How emotional analgesia relates to gender roles. [18:04]

• Thoughts on toxic positivity and why we’re not comfortable with other people’s pain. [23:56]

• What Kristina hopes that readers will take from her book. [27:54]

• One step to begin your “flawesome" journey: replace judgment with curiosity. [30:08]

 

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Flawesome with Kristina

 

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Kristina’s Book: Becoming Flawesome: The Key to Living An Imperfectly Authentic Life

 

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Quotes:

“I think that the thing I missed the most was just being okay with being me.” — Kristina Mänd-Lakhiani [0:08:13]

“I can’t recover from being myself. And there is a difference – between certain bad habits and certain behaviors that you can unlearn and untrain versus your personality.” — Kristina Mänd-Lakhiani [0:10:32]

“This fascination with not feeling has brought us to the point where we as a society suffer from emotional analgesia and what that means is we don’t notice our emotions.” — Kristina Mänd-Lakhiani [0:17:13]

“We have to allow people to feel emotions because the problem is not what emotion you feel, the problem is are you acting out of your emotion or are you acting out of your value?” — Kristina Mänd-Lakhiani [0:21:39]

“I want people to come to peace with themselves. We are hurting so much by not being okay with who we are.” — Kristina Mänd-Lakhiani [0:28:26]

“If you can replace judgment with curiosity, it will open up so many doors.” — Kristina Mänd-Lakhiani [0:32:34]

 

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