Lose/Lose Game - 3 of 4

Putting on Acts. From a victim point of view, a person who plays the victim always wants to hide the fact that they live as a victim and so they pretend they’re not a victim. They put on acts! What makes people do that? I’ll tell you at the end. We all have insecurities. It's a part of being human. But for some people, their insecurities can be so overwhelming that they feel the need to pretend to be someone or something they're not. There are many reasons why people put on acts. They might be afraid of being rejected or judged, or they might feel like they need to live up to a certain image. Whatever the reason, pretending to be someone you're not is exhausting and harmful to you and everyone around you. Pretending to be something you're not always has consequences. It leads to feeling isolated, lonely, and anxiety. It damages your relationships with yourself and others. AND these are all symptoms, not the cause, i’m going to tell you shortly what the cause is. AND, there are Payoffs and Ripoffs to putting on acts What is the PAYOFF? - What do you gain? What are the benefits you get by putting on an act? What is the RIPOFF? What do you lose by pretending to be something that you are not? What are people covering up? Insecurity Where does insecurity come from? Not being true to yourself. Not keeping your word to yourself, letting yourself off the hook (unhealthy habits, knowingly creating health issues, low personal standards, disorganization, messy environment, messy car, messy mind) Some of you think that all this confusion comes from your past and how you’ve been treated. NOPE! It all stems from being a sloppy human. Isn’t that why people get offended so easily? YES!! Our #1 responsibility as a human, an adult human is to create a healthy mind and body and when you break that oath, you live in hell It's important to find a way to be true to your word. When you do things (exercise, eat healthy, balance alcohol intake, etc, you feel better and the more you do it the better you feel. The better you feel the less insecure you feel. What to do: Get help from someone who can get you from A to B quickly Find a way to be held accountable Define your standards Make a plan for your life Make personal agreements Start small and work up to more challenging things Test it out for yourself and see what happens, don’t believe me Find an environment where it’s safe to make mistakes If you want to feel proud of yourself and who you are, you have to find a way to become more and more disciplined with yourself. It’s the only way. As a victim, playing the lose/lose game, feeling uncertain, acting like you have it all together, when you are really feeling lonely, trapped, low energy, scared, etc.  - you spend most of your time in your head talking to yourself, and very little time in your heart where you ideally want to be. Slide 5 - Part 4 of 4 What are we really covering up by putting on an act?  - Insecurities Where do you fabricate your acts? Where do you piece it all together? IN YOUR MIND with the thoughts that YOU are creating. Part 4 of 4 is about how we end up living our lives in our mind, caught up in all the crap, living in a neverending cesspool of confusing thoughts. There is a way out, I call it the Win/Win Game Stay tuned for part 4 of 4 next ***** The ultimate gift you can give to the world is to show you are constantly evolving. Otherwise, what’s the point? ~ Domenic Certa email: domeniccerta@gmail.com Courses, Books & Free Downloads ⁠⁠https://omnil.ink/domeniccerta⁠⁠ Domenic Certa Bio: Domenic is a serial entrepreneur who has used his life starting, building and selling his businesses. He specializes in self-achievement strategies from personal communication to spiritual evolution. He is author of over 15 books, hundreds of training courses and is the Managing Director of the Self Achievement Network. He works on custom projects and is available for training and speaking engagements upon request. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/selfachievementnetwork/support