168. Hot Sex in Marriage with Brad and Lisa Valencia

Welcome to episode #168! This week, Matt and Braden talk with Brad and Lisa Valencia about how to have great sex in your marriage.

Get your priorities right.

Starting with building your relationship with Christ and being rooted and grounding in it and then working on your marriage outside the bedroom is how you begin to build a great sex life. Intimacy should be in every area and then sex is an overflow of something you’ve been working on all day long, throughout your life. Not just loving each other and flirting, but also includes dealing with things like shame. Allow God into all areas of your life and lay any shame at his feet so he can restore you. Pursuing your spouse and helping them feel wanted will help to bring healing to your life - including your sex life. Great sex in your marriage starts outside of the bedroom. 

Make room to connect with each other.

Date your spouse - can be big and extravagant, or simply just spending intentional time together. A time where no one else is involved and try to get out of the home. Be willing to invest (financially and timewise) in this area of your relationship and break out of the normal routine with each other. Create opportunities for adventure -  to laugh and have fun together. Laughing and flirting together is so powerful. Side by side connection while your walking is important - not just sitting across face to face to have deep conversations. You will learn your spouse better and have a deeper connection through those conversations. 

You cannot be self seeking.

You need to embrace this mindset in every area of life and it will roll over into the bedroom. Look at your lens of how can you serve your spouse and your kids; how can you serve Christ? It is what we are called to do; we are called to model a servant attitude. This mindset will also roll over into the bedroom. It will be fulfilling for both of you in a deep, intimate way. 

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Podcast Hosts

BRADEN HAFNER

Braden is the Regional Director in Alberta for FamilyLife Canada. He has been married for 14 years to his wife Kristen, and they live in Edmonton, Alberta. He is passionate about seeing marriages grow and thrive, and helping couples move to a deeper oneness with one another and with God. FamilyLife Canada has a variety of resources and events to help you and your spouse take your marriage to the next level. See what would benefit you at www.familylifecanada.com

MATT CLINE

Matt and his wife Louise raise their little guys, David and Oliver, in Edmonton, Alberta. He is honoured to do what he can to tackle the epidemic of pornography and sexual perversion in every way possible. Seeing lives and marriages get free and experience the love of God in profound ways is what drives him every day. He leads Restored Ministries, is a certified speaker and coach for the John Maxwell Team, and formerly played hockey in the WHL and for Hockey Canada. You can visit www.restoredministries.ca.