The Pitfalls of Praise | POF59

“When you compliment your children, praise them for inner qualities such as kindness, honesty and perseverance so they will strive to contribute to the world in meaningful ways.” ~Toni Schutta Many parents hold the mistaken belief that it’s important to shower our children with constant praise. Praising our children is instinctual, almost a reflex.  It’s hard to hold back when your child does something new or good!  We want to celebrate them! 

 

Yes!  Praise can benefit motivation and self-esteem, but praise doesn’t mean this is a lasting effect. Our ultimate goal should be to nurture our child’s internal motivation. We don’t want our children to become addicted to praise, motivated solely by external approval. We want them to be motivated internally. Why?  Because we want our children to want to make an effort, perform well, learn, and grow because it is personally satisfying.

 

When you praise your child, you want to keep these three things in mind:  Be sparing, specific and sincere.  Listen in for all the ways you can talk to your children to build resilience and a strong sense of self.  Check out the show notes for more than 25 ways to praise your child!

 

About Robbin McManne

 

Robbin is a Certified Parent Coach, author and speaker.  She works with parents from all over the world to help them build more connection and find more joy and cooperation in their parenting.

 

Robbin is a former ‘Angry Mom’ and for over 12 years, Robbin juggled a full-time corporate career while being a mom and wife, prior to becoming a Parenting Coach.  In her corporate career, Robbin has a background in marketing and public relations, training, and event planning. She understands firsthand how many moms struggle to balance work and family.

 

It’s because of her struggles as a parent that she found the world of peaceful parenting and has dedicated her life to teaching parents how to build a strong family, so their kids thrive. 

Robbin’s work focuses on building and strengthening the parent child relationship so that children grow up with resilience, confidence and strong emotional intelligence.  She works with parents to help them understand their own emotions and frustrations in parenting, so they can help build their children’s sense of self without losing themselves in the process!

 

In October of 2018 Robbin released her first book, “The Yelling Cure – How stress less and get your kids to cooperate without threats & punishments.” Her book is being read by parents all over the world 1000,000 copies sold to date. www.yellingcurebook.com

 

Robbin divides her time working with her clients, speaking at events and spending time with her two boys and husband.  You can usually find her at a hockey rink or sports field cheering on her boys.  Most importantly, Robbin has changed the way she parents and connects with her sons and is dedicated to helping parents find the same joy, connection and cooperation in their families.

 

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From the podcast:

25 + ways to praise your child YAY! You did it! Tell me more! You should be proud of yourself! That took a lot of courage! Tell me how you feel? I love being with you! I love our connection. What was your favorite part? How did you do that? I feel so lucky to be your mom. You did it on your own! I enjoyed watching you! What made you the most proud about doing _____ You didn’t stop even though it was hard for you You’re getting better and better each time you try It looked like you were having so much fun!! Look how you solved that problem! You worked so hard Nothing can stop you now! You are really improving! I love your smile! That brightened my day! I love seeing you happy! You have such great ideas! You showed great teamwork! Smile warmly and say nothing That was kind. Awesome! thumbs up High five

 

Thanks for listening!

It means so much to me that you listened to my podcast! If you would like to purchase my book or other parenting resources, visit me at www.yellingcurebook.com

 

With this podcast, my intention is to build a community of parents that can have open and honest conversations about parenting without judgement or criticism.  We have too much of that!  I honor each parent and their path towards becoming the best parent they can be.  My hope is to inspire more parents to consider the practice of Peaceful Parenting. If you know somebody who would benefit from this message, or would be an awesome addition to our community, please share it using the social media buttons on this page.

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