Ep 199: Mark England on Emotional Detoxification Through Word Choice

In the 199th episode of The Strength Connection Podcast, Mike and our special guest, mindset performance coach, Mark England, will talk about the power of words spoken out loud and internally, I didn't laugh for an entire year, emotional detoxification, Atelophobia: The fear of not being good enough, the victim mentality, you can’t trust men, learn to think about your thinking, and more!

Join us in this insightful and captivating talk! 

In this chapter, you will discover:

(0:40) Michael introduces our special guest, mindset performance coach, Mark England @enliftedcoaches

(1:50) The power of words, spoken out loud and internally.

(2:30) Mark began his journey in MMA.

(3:40) Mark's college girlfriend.

(4:20) Relocating to Thailand to teach.

(4:50) Second knee surgery at 26 years old

(5:00) Your fighting career is over

(6:00) I didn't laugh for an entire year.

(6:30) Deep into the victim mentality.

(7:10) Lived in Thailand for 10 years.

(8:00) Are you going to complain about this at 55 years old?

(9:10) Shout out to Barry Musgrave

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(10:40) Emotional detoxification.

(10:50) Is there anybody who's stuck in their story?

(12:00) We remember 30% of what we hear, 50% of what we write, 80% of what we teach

(12:10) "A spell is a word or a combination of words of great influence.” - Mark England @enliftedcoaches

(12:50) From "He did that to me" to "He did that to himself."

(15:00) Atelophobia: The fear of not being good enough.

(15:40) The story I had in my head.

(16:10) "The victim mentality is an acquired personality trait where a person tends to regard himself or herself as the victim of the negative actions of others, even in the absence of clear evidence.” - Mark England @enliftedcoaches

(16:50) “The victim mentality depends on a habitual thought process.” - Mark England @enliftedcoaches

(20:00) Transforming a problem into a personal hell.

(20:20) You can't trust men.

(23:00) Be cautious when selecting your peer group.

(24:00) It's hard to hide from the truth when it's right in front of your face.

(25:40) "The real pre-workout in the fitness industry is the victim mentality."

(28:00) I'm sorry, I'm leaving.

(30:50) You can change your own stories.

(31:20) An applicable definition of mindset.

(31:40) "Mindset is the story you tell yourself." - Mark England @enliftedcoaches

(34:50) Physical versus mental strength.

(35:20) Everyone knows when they're procrastinating because we know what procrastination feels like.

(37:00) “If you're using your words better and you're telling yourself better stories, you're going to feel better and your relationships will improve.” - Mark England @enliftedcoaches

(37:20) Language games.

(38:20) "How can I ever get over this?"

(39:00) Observe you're thinking.

(39:20) "When we learn to think about our thinking, we become alive in a new way.” - Alan Watts

(40:50) From "How can I EVER get over this?" to "How can I get over this?"

(43:40) Without words, mindset is not practical.

(45:50) “Soft talk is the gateway drug to the rest of your language.” - Mark England @enliftedcoaches

(46:50) Pick-up lines

(47:00) Example of soft talk words: Possibly, perhaps, could, might, probably, sort of, kind of, hopefully.

(50:30) Confidence and articulation.

(52:20) “When you get control of your word choice, you get control of your story.” - Mark England @enliftedcoaches

(54:00 Simplicity is the answer.

(55:20) I can't stand the word mindset.

(57:00) Where to find more about Mark England @enliftedcoaches

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