Feel Better Faster: Avoiding Perfectionist Mistakes In Expressing EMOTIONS

Ever wish you could just turn your feelings off? For years I wanted to be a robot bc I sucked at expressing emotions. Now I know what to do with feelings and can easily make space for emotions without drowning in them. Emotions can either propel or paralyze you, here's how to understand and navigate them as a perfectionist.

Listen to the full episode to hear:

• Discover the two main ways society has miseducated us about expressing emotions and the pivotal techniques to unlearn them.
• Two essential questions to ask to get out of the emotional swap + get clear
• The difference between self-compassion, emotional petting, reflection, rumination and more.
• Perfectionist tendencies and how they become unhealthy coping mechanisms
• How Jamal + Veronica took control of their emotions and perfectionism so they co-exist in harmony

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EPSISODE 173 TIMESTAMPS:

00:00-Introduction + Sneak Peak of Topic

01:43-Two Major Misconceptions About Expressing Emotions 

02:22-Dismissing Emotions vs Taking Charge of Your Emotions 

03:28-Dangers of Black and White Thinking About Emotions 

03:42-The Role of Capitalism in Controlling of Emotions

04:06-Differentiating Self Compassion, Reflection, Discipline and Expressing Feelings 

04:58-When Perfectionism Becomes An Unhealthy Coping Mechanism 

07:04-Why Focusing On Present Rather Than Past Is Where You Find Answers 

07:37-Differentiating Between Expressing and Explaining Feelings 

08:06-The Pitfalls of Overexpressing and Underexplaining Feelings

09:57-How Providing Context for Emotional Experiences is Key

10:47-The Challenge of Underexpressing and Overexplaining Emotions

12:45-How A Healthy Perfectionist Handles Emotions in a Better Way 

13:30-Two Key Questions to Increase Your Emotional Intelligence + Feel Better Faster