218: Stop Should-ing Yourself with Barbara Abel

Welcome to the Imperfect Success Podcast! Today we are sitting down with multimedia coach and creative advisor Barbara Abel about one of the darkest sides of perfectionism - how the quest for the should-be often leads to frustration, burnout, and a lack of joy and fulfillment. 

 

We all have an inner critic that likes to "should" on us. The voice that says we should be working harder, achieving more, and living up to unrealistic standards of perfection.  Barbara shares her wisdom and experience in breaking free from the trap of unrealistic expectations plus how to stand out amongst the crowd!!

 

5 Key Takeaways:

• The "shoulds" we impose on ourselves are often a manifestation of perfectionism and lead to guilt, shame, and a feeling that we're never quite good enough.

• Catch yourself when you fall into "should" thinking and reframe statements from "I should..." to "I want..." or "I choose..."

• Perfectionism can masquerade as hard work and commitment but takes you away from being present, enjoying the process, and expressing your unique self.

• High achievers still need grace, balance, and the freedom to be imperfect humans. Systems that demand 100% all the time drive you towards burnout.

• There's no need to reinvent the wheel - you can make an impact using your existing talents creatively vs. adhering to a rigid standard of what success "should" look like.

 

Tune in to hear Barbara's incredible story, how she learned to break free from the tyranny of "should," and actionable strategies you can use to escape the trap of perfectionism. 

 

More From Barbara: 

• Podcast - Ready and Camera Abel

• Website 

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Take the FREE “What Type of Perfectionist Are You?” quiz and learn how to overcome the negatives of your perfectionist type! 

 

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This podcast is produced and edited by the WONDERFUL Ariel Villafane! 

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