If the advice to “Just be yourself and let it happen” actually worked, it wouldn’t need to be said.
In this episode, I play a voicemail from a listener named Rachel. She gives her take on some of the dating advice found here and I respond in kind. I also share a story called “Tripp, just be yourself.”
In her voicemail, Rachel says a man should “Just be himself. If it’s meant to happen, it’ll happen.”
This is the type of dating advice typically given by women to men. Just be yourself. And although it is given with good intentions, it’s also one of the most neutral things a man can do who is looking to be in a relationship.
If “being yourself and just let things happen naturally” were good advice, it wouldn’t need to be said, because that person has already been themselves and tried to let things happen naturally.
If just being yourself were good enough, there wouldn’t be so many frustrated single men, and so many angry single women, walking right by each other every day, wondering why they’re so great but still single.
Rather than “just be yourself”, the best thing a guy can do to become more successful with women is to work on being an improved version of himself and on his way to being the best version of himself.
The reason some women give this type of advice, is because they don’t understand how the deeper dynamics of the mating dance between men and women or how the process of attraction really works.
Real progress takes place when a man improves himself and takes control of his life. Not by doing nothing, staying the same, and just letting things happen.
And this is my take on the “just be yourself and let it happen” advice.
Listen to this podcast again if you need to, take some notes, and use what you learn to better understand why just being yourself and letting things happen does not work and what you can do instead.
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To your success,
Tripp
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