Divorce (Part 1) w/ Joey Pontarelli

This week, Jake and Bob are joined by Joey Pontarelli, the founder and president of the ministry “Restored”. After finding a lack of help after his parents’ divorce, Joey decided to begin ministry with “Restored” to offer practical guidance and support for teens and young adults from broken families. Jake, Bob, and Joey discuss the wounds that come from divorce, their personal experiences, and practical advice on how to respond to this woundedness. 

Key Points

• If there isn’t any transformation in the wounds, then the sins we fall into, as a remedy, make sense. They don’t work, but they make sense. 

• We often don’t want to face these wounds, so we try to outrun them. But we can’t outrun our wounds. We’re made for more than that.

• The Lord understands why you struggle with each particular sin. It doesn’t surprise or scandalize Him. And He loves you where you are. 

• Divorce is a wound of broken love. So the medicine can only work when you reach the wound. Love is what heals. 

• Relationship with God is the primary healing element and agent. Give God your attention, quality time, and trust Him. 

• Consume great content that involves trauma and healing. Seek out coaching - a therapist, spiritual director, or mentor. Have a good community and deep relationships.

• For a healthy marriage - spend time with a couple who has a healthy marriage. 

• The temptation in marriage is to harden your heart and to close yourself off. But instead, we are called to tenderness and vulnerability.

Resources

• Restored Ministry Website 

• RTG Anatomy of a Wound Series

• Adam Young’s Podcast: The Place We Find Ourselves

• Restored Ministry Podcast

• Restored Ministry Podcast with Sr. Miriam 

• It’s not Your Fault (Book by Joey)

• Restored Ministry courses  

• 5 tips to navigate the holidays in a broken family guide

• Jay Stringer

• Jason Evert

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