EP394: Enneagram Hotline - How do you know if you are serving from all the right places with Emily Helderman (SO Enneagram 2)

In this insightful episode of the Lead with the Enneagram podcast, we had the pleasure of speaking with Emily Helderman, a licensed therapist who discovered that her true Enneagram type was not what she initially thought. Despite being labeled as an Enneagram 3 by many, Emily's journey led her to realize she is actually a Social Enneagram 2. We delved deep into the nuances of overgiving, people-pleasing, and the motivations behind helping others.

Key Takeaways:

• The Misidentification of High-Achieving Women: We discussed how high-achieving women, like Emily, are often mistyped on the Enneagram, particularly when it comes to distinguishing between types 2 and 3.
• The Enneagram as a Growth Tool: I shared my own skepticism-turned-advocacy for the Enneagram and how it can be applied effectively in personal and professional settings.
• The Journey of Self-Discovery: Emily opened up about her initial resistance to being a type 2 and how she came to embrace her true type through self-reflection and understanding her core motivations.
• The Challenge of Boundaries: We explored the difficulty Enneagram 2s face in setting emotional boundaries and the guilt associated with not always being able to help.
• Playing Small: Emily candidly discussed the ways she has played small in her career and personal life, and how recognizing this pattern is the first step towards change.
• The Importance of Vulnerability: We touched on the importance of vulnerability for growth, especially for type 2s, who may struggle with asking for help and expressing their needs.
• The Role of Sad Stories: Emily questioned whether her attachment to her "sad story" was holding her back from fully stepping into her potential and serving others without ego.

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