Expectations Minus Reality: Disappointment

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How can we handle disappointment? If we break it down into a simple formula you can learn how to hack the emotion. Disappointment = Expectation - Reality. When our reality is so distant from what we expect it to be or desire, we become disappointed. This can lead to anger, frustration, and pain. It is the attachment to the expectation and the longing for change that brings this unpleasant experience to fruition. 

We create boundaries, which is our stopping point, our wall, or line for when things no longer align with us. We have standards for what we are currently desiring and create expectations for the future. Can we shift our expectations into hope? When we remember that all is happening for our highest good, we can have hope and hold the vision of what is for our highest potential. Accepting that if we do not receive what we desire, it was not meant for us at this moment. 

When you set expectations, or standards, it is important to communicate your needs to those around you. This is the first step in bringing that expectation closer to your realm. As co-creators of our own reality, it can be tricky to navigate our desires, but by taking steps to embody said reality in our actions and perspective, we can bring it into our field leaving the distance between expectations and reality much smaller, thus leading to less disappointment. Whatever you are not changing your choosing - change your reality to reach your expectation. Use disappointment as a compass to see where you need to realign. Become the observer of your existence, taking note of what you need to change in your current reality to line up the trajectory with your expectation without attachment to the outcome. How can you give yourself grace and ease during the transition into a new reality?